I work with people from around the world in my studio on
Island and online. I have a guest suite available for
It all begins with an email or call. If you decide you would like to
work with me, I'll have you fill out an extensive intake form. We
review this and design a plan for working together based on your
intentions for your erotic life, your sexual history and issues,
your learning goals, your budget, your desire for touch or for
distance, and your proximity to
Salt Spring Island. Somatic Sex
Education can include the following options:
Talking about Sex
No matter what your troublesome turn-ons, worries, wounds and
joys, you will be met with love, compassion, and complete
We can use breath to awaken the body and regulate autonomic
nervous system responses. Perhaps the primary tool for dwelling with
sexual energy is the breath.
Exercises for Healing
Various exercises and approaches can help you become more
grounded and centered, and release the effects of trauma held in the
Our boundaries are continually assaulted - by cultural forces
like gender stereotypes, homophobia, advertising - and by personal
relationships where our choices are dishonored, or we give too much.
Are you able to ask for what you want? Can you feel the "yes"
and "no" in your own heart and body? Can you hear a lover's
verbal and non-verbal requests? How
safe, comfortable and confident to you feel in your communications
Learning the Anatomy
Learn the 18 parts of the clitoris and where to find them on
your own and your lovers' bodies. What role does the prostate play
in male sexual response? What is the "female prostate"? Learn the whole sexual system and
how to engage the power of all the pelvic nerves with your touch.
Witnessing is simple and profound in its effects. When we
witness another, the person being witnessed can have the sensation
of seeing himself or herself in a new way. The student may become
aware of areas of shame. They may discover new sensations to
celebrate, or go deeper into their own self-awareness.
Masturbation is often a highly habitual and disconnected
experience for people. Masturbation coaching is a very effective way
to break free of limiting habits and to go deep into your erotic
capacities. Are there new tools and toys your want to play with? Can
you learn to "medibate" - combine masturbation with meditation? Are
you feeling all the pleasure you are capable of?
Orgasmic Yoga invites us to place our attention within our
bodies during sexual arousal. The source of our excitement is not
erotic imagery but our touching and awareness of our own alive body.
Each practice session offers us a way of consciously sensing,
savoring and listening to the erotic wisdom within our physical
selves. Learn to benefit from these signals, voices, and wisdom.
"Pornography Addiction" and "Sex Addiction" Coaching
Sexual energy is powerful life-force energy. It involves
biochemical, psychological and physiological processes through which
we can experience joy, profound bonding, and ecstatic states. These
same processes can make us feel compulsive and out of control. Sex
lights up areas of our brain that are activated by chemical
"Ask for What
You Want" Bodywork Session
I stand beside the table and invite you to tune into your body.
What does your body want at this moment? How would you like to be
touched? When and if you are ready, you will direct every touch.
This can be a very healing experience. It can help us create more
mindful awareness of body sensation and desire, and more capacity to
use our voice and choice in erotic exchanges.
Erotic Massage Dancing
Erotic massage dancing involves the coordination of breathing
and movement in both the giver and the receiver. The receiver is
"dancing" while lying on a massage table, staying present and
embodied by moving the body with each breath.
Pelvic Release Massage
After a full-body relaxation massage, this massage focuses on a
"mapping" of the vulva. After some gentle external touch, and only
if the person receiving wants this in the moment, the Sexological
Bodyworker begins pressing and holding points inside the vagina. The
goal is not erotic stimulation, but rather to have bodyworker and
student work in partnership, sensing and feeling what is there. The
intent is not to get through all the points, but to notice what
happens at each and every point. It is possible to spend an entire
session on one point. This massage can be done many times and yield
new sensations, information, and emotional and physical release in
Scar Tissue Remediation
Sexological bodyworkers address scars created by surgery, childbirth
and trauma. We observe the scar and feel for its depth, shape,
texture and extent. We evaluate the elasticity, distensibility and
sensitivity of the scar and surrounding tissues. We then apply
castor oil and special strokes that encourage the scar tissue to
release and realign. We work in partnership with our clients,
helping them to go into a state of deep internal awareness. They
feel into the scar, and allow it to speak to them. The scar's
"holding" is typically both physical and emotional, and often an
emotional and physical release will be felt simultaneously.
Tantra is a complex practice that invites us to become more present
with all that is, and to learn to dance with the energy outside and
inside us. Full-body massage leads to more inner awareness,
increased bodily sensitivity, and more psychological openness. The
tantric massage doesn't focus on sexually sensitive areas, but it
includes them in an integrative whole-body approach.
Taoist Erotic Massage
This full-body massage typically concludes with a period of
prolonged and creative genital stimulation. Recipients are
encouraged to breathe deeply, relaxing into the sensation. When we
are in a state of relaxation, heart wide open and fully aware of all
the joys we are feeling, we may not exactly "have an orgasm" but
rather, we become orgasmic. The massage is climaxed with a staccato
breathing pattern, a full-body clench and release, and a period of
This mindfulness massage is a good one for couples to learn and
practice regularly. The person giving the massage brings their
loving attention to the vulva or the penis, using a single stroke, repeated over
and over. There is nothing for the receiver to do except to be
aware. The receiver is asked be attentive to her or his sensations without
attaching to them. There is no goal except to enjoy having no goal,
being present with erotic energy.
The base of our spine is one of the foundations of our physical
being. Many people hold habitual tension in this region. Once
relaxation begins, feelings of shame sometimes surface, and can be
released. Increased ease in the anal area is often reflected in
tranquility throughout the body. Anal massage has both external and
internal components, used together or separately as appropriate, and
only when welcomed by the recipient's body. The anus can also be
area of erotic and sensual pleasure. In men the prostate is
profoundly sexually sensitive. Women have a perineal sponge.
If a woman has had painful sexual experiences, either physical or
emotional, her initial response to being touched in the G-Spot is
often pain. Slow, loving and tender massage focusing on the G-Spot
can release armoring, create an opportunity for deep emotional
release, and heal past wounds. An awakened G-Spot can awaken a
connection with the core, and a sense of inner power that can
illuminate life on many levels. With G-Spot Massage you can learn to
Transgender Erotic Massage
Receive and direct whole body and erotic touch that allows you to
play with masculine and feminine energies. New ways of experiencing
your sexuality and your genitals invite transformation of rigid
Surrender, Sensation Play
Spanking, flogging and other methods of body stimulation bring
heightened awareness of the body’s capacity for sensation. Being
held in bondage while receiving erotic touch lets us explore the
transformational energy of surrender. Learn to communicate desires,
set up scenarios, use "safe words" and navigate BDSM erotic play.
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