Each woman has her own unique labial configuration. Some lips are fat and some are thin. Some lips are long and some are short, and some are markedly asymmetrical. Sometimes the glans of the clitoris is prominent, and sometimes it seems impossibly hard to find. A huge ranges of colors, shapes and sizes all are normal and beautiful.
We are all innervated differently too. Some women need very gentle touch, and others respond best to deep pressure. This can change within a session and between sessions, with the degree of arousal, the time of the month, and the stage of life. Some women readily enjoy internal stimulation, and other women simply don’t. Other women can learn to enjoy vaginal orgasms with prolonged external stimulation, plus education and practice. Learning the anatomy of the vulva cannot replace communication and creativity, every time, with each recipient of your touch.
Male genital anatomy comes in a vast diversity of unique configurations. Penises have unique personalities! Scrotal sacs can be huge or tiny. Foreskins can be frilly or smooth. Some shafts are thick and some are thin, some long and some short. Some bend sideways. Sometimes the shaft looks very different when engorged, while other penises show much less variation.
Men are all innervated differently. Circumcision, abdominal surgery and masturbatory habits variously affect them. There are many ways in which the feeling capacities of genital nerves are stimulated or compromised.
Some men readily enjoy internal stimulation, while for others it takes patient education and practice. Some men need very gentle touch, and others respond best to high-friction strokes. As with pleasuring the vulva, this can change within a session and between sessions, with the degree of arousal and the stage of life. Learning genital anatomy cannot replace communication and creativity, every time, with each recipient of your touch.
Genital differentiation develops with puberty – individual characteristics start to develop – just as our faces get more individual, so do our genitals! There are many different different sizes and shapes that are normal and beautiful for labia, testicles, penises and clitorises. It is also normal and beautiful to feel transgendered or bi-gendered, and feel like our external genitals don’t fit or don’t fully express who we are inside.
Caffyn Jesse worked with artist S. Murali Shanmugam to create a series of erotic anatomy drawings that are included in her book, Erotic Massage, available to teachers as a Powerpoint file, and included in her online course on Erotic Massage.
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