Services

I work with people from around the world in my studio on Salt Spring Island and online. I have a guest suite available for visiting students. For Rates CLICK HERE

Somatic Sex Education can include the following options:

Talking about Sex

Breath Coaching
Exercises for Healing Trauma
Boundary Awareness Exercises
Communication Exercises

Learning the Anatomy of Arousal
Masturbation Witnessing
Masturbation Coaching
Orgasmic Yoga

“Pornography Addiction” and “Sex Addiction” Coaching

“Ask for What You Want” Bodywork Session

Erotic Massage Dancing

Pelvic Release Massage

Scar Tissue Remediation

Tantric Massage
Taoist Erotic Massage

Orgasmic Meditation

Anal / Prostate Massage
G-Spot Massage

Transgender Erotic Massage

Power and Surrender, Sensation Play

Residential Retreats
Advanced Training

Talking about Sex
No matter what your troublesome turn-ons, worries, wounds and joys, you will be met with love, compassion, and complete confidentiality.

Breath Coaching
We can use breath to awaken the body and regulate autonomic nervous system responses. Perhaps the primary tool for dwelling with sexual energy is the breath.

Exercises for Healing Trauma
Various exercises and approaches can help you become more grounded and centered, and release the effects of trauma held in the body.

Boundary Awareness Exercises
Our boundaries are continually assaulted – by cultural forces like gender stereotypes, homophobia, advertising – and by personal relationships where our choices are dishonored, or we give too much.

Communication Exercises
Are you able to ask for what you want? Can you feel the “yes” and “no” in your own heart and body? Can you hear a lover’s verbal and non-verbal requests? How safe, comfortable and confident to you feel in your communications around sex?

Learning the Anatomy of Arousal
Learn the 18 parts of the clitoris and where to find them on your own and your lovers’ bodies. What role does the prostate play in male sexual response? What is the “female prostate”? Learn the whole sexual system and how to engage the power of all the pelvic nerves with your touch.

Masturbation Witnessing
Witnessing is simple and profound in its effects. When we witness another, the person being witnessed can have the sensation of seeing himself or herself in a new way. The student may become aware of areas of shame. They may discover new sensations to celebrate, or go deeper into their own self-awareness.

Masturbation Coaching
Masturbation is often a highly habitual and disconnected experience for people. Masturbation coaching is a very effective way to break free of limiting habits and to go deep into your erotic capacities. Are there new tools and toys your want to play with? Can you learn to “medibate” – combine masturbation with meditation? Are you feeling all the pleasure you are capable of?

Orgasmic Yoga
Orgasmic Yoga invites us to place our attention within our bodies during sexual arousal. The source of our excitement is not erotic imagery but our touching and awareness of our own alive body. Each practice session offers us a way of consciously sensing, savoring and listening to the erotic wisdom within our physical selves. Learn to benefit from these signals, voices, and wisdom.

“Pornography Addiction” and “Sex Addiction” Coaching
Sexual energy is powerful life-force energy. It involves biochemical, psychological and physiological processes through which we can experience joy, profound bonding, and ecstatic states. These same processes can make us feel compulsive and out of control. Sex lights up areas of our brain that are activated by chemical addictions.

“Ask for What You Want” Bodywork Session
I stand beside the table and invite you to tune into your body. What does your body want at this moment? How would you like to be touched? When and if you are ready, you will direct every touch. This can be a very healing experience. It can help us create more mindful awareness of body sensation and desire, and more capacity to use our voice and choice in erotic exchanges.

Erotic Massage Dancing
Erotic massage dancing involves the coordination of breathing and movement in both the giver and the receiver. The receiver is “dancing” while lying on a massage table, staying present and embodied by moving the body with each breath.

Pelvic Release Massage
After a full-body relaxation massage, this massage focuses on a “mapping” of the vulva. After some gentle external touch, and only if the person receiving wants this in the moment, the Sexological Bodyworker begins pressing and holding points inside the vagina. The goal is not erotic stimulation, but rather to have bodyworker and student work in partnership, sensing and feeling what is there. The intent is not to get through all the points, but to notice what happens at each and every point. It is possible to spend an entire session on one point. This massage can be done many times and yield new sensations, information, and emotional and physical release in every session.

Scar Tissue Remediation
Sexological bodyworkers address scars created by surgery, childbirth and trauma. We observe the scar and feel for its depth, shape, texture and extent. We evaluate the elasticity, distensibility and sensitivity of the scar and surrounding tissues. We then apply castor oil and special strokes that encourage the scar tissue to release and realign. We work in partnership with our clients, helping them to go into a state of deep internal awareness. They feel into the scar, and allow it to speak to them. The scar’s “holding” is typically both physical and emotional, and often an emotional and physical release will be felt simultaneously. More info here

Tantric Massage
Tantra is a complex practice that invites us to become more present with all that is, and to learn to dance with the energy outside and inside us. Full-body massage leads to more inner awareness, increased bodily sensitivity, and more psychological openness. The tantric massage doesn’t focus on sexually sensitive areas, but it includes them in an integrative whole-body approach.

Taoist Erotic Massage
This full-body massage typically concludes with a period of prolonged and creative genital stimulation. Recipients are encouraged to breathe deeply, relaxing into the sensation. When we are in a state of relaxation, heart wide open and fully aware of all the joys we are feeling, we may not exactly “have an orgasm” but rather, we become orgasmic. The massage is climaxed with a staccato breathing pattern, a full-body clench and release, and a period of meditation.

Orgasmic Meditation
This mindfulness massage is a good one for couples to learn and practice regularly. The person giving the massage brings their loving attention to the vulva or the penis, using a single stroke, repeated over and over. There is nothing for the receiver to do except to be aware. The receiver is asked be attentive to her or his sensations without attaching to them. There is no goal except to enjoy having no goal, being present with erotic energy.

Anal Massage
The base of our spine is one of the foundations of our physical being. Many people hold habitual tension in this region. Once relaxation begins, feelings of shame sometimes surface, and can be released. Increased ease in the anal area is often reflected in tranquility throughout the body. Anal massage has both external and internal components, used together or separately as appropriate, and only when welcomed by the recipient’s body. The anus can also be area of erotic and sensual pleasure. In men the prostate is profoundly sexually sensitive. Women have a perineal sponge.

G-Spot Massage
If a woman has had painful sexual experiences, either physical or emotional, her initial response to being touched in the G-Spot is often pain. Slow, loving and tender massage focusing on the G-Spot can release armoring, create an opportunity for deep emotional release, and heal past wounds. An awakened G-Spot can awaken a connection with the core, and a sense of inner power that can illuminate life on many levels. With G-Spot Massage you can learn to ejaculate.

Transgender Erotic Massage
Caffyn works with transsexual people who are pre-operative, post-operative and non-operative. Wherever you are on your gender odyssey, you may want to explore being touched in ways that affirm your gender. Cross-dressing people and bi-gendered people are also among her students.

Whatever your gender identity, you may enjoy the opportunity to receive and direct whole body and erotic touch that plays with masculine and feminine energies. New ways of experiencing your sexuality and your genitals invite transformation of rigid gender limitations.

Power and Surrender, Sensation Play
Spanking, flogging and other methods of body stimulation bring heightened awareness of the body’s capacity for sensation. Being held in bondage while receiving erotic touch lets us explore the transformational energy of surrender. Learn to communicate desires, set up scenarios, use “safe words” and navigate BDSM erotic play. Many people find a greater sense of personal empowerment through these practices.

Residential Retreats

Nourish your erotic spirit while holidaying on Salt Spring Island. Share your fears, dreams and secrets in a loving, confidential environment. Wake your body up with Orgasmic Yoga practice, learn erotic breath techniques, empower your voice with playful exercises, explore touch, tools, toys and possibilities. Receive hours of integrative bodywork that is custom-designed for you. MORE INFO

Advanced Training

The advanced training is a customized program Caffyn adapts for each person who chooses to study with her. It prepares people to offer erotic massage, either to friends or professionally, with knowledge of techniques, benefits, complexities and precautions. It explores the intersection of Sex and Spirit, and covers Anatomy, Intake and Assessment, Queerying Gender, Full Body Massage, various approaches to Genital Massage, Scar Tissue remediation, Mindful Erotic Practice, Sexual Healing, Boundaries, Safety, and Ethics of Practice. MORE INFO

It all begins with an email or call. If you decide you would like to work with me, I’ll have you fill out an extensive intake form. We review this and design a plan for working together based on your intentions for your erotic life, your sexual history and issues, your learning goals, your budget, your desire for touch or for distance, and your proximity to Salt Spring Island.